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I am a full-time mama with a passion for writing and talking to fascinating people. I live in a one horse town with a Cowboy and my son. Thank Lord for cyberspace! I lived a colourful life in Sydney for a number of years. Working in advertising and journalism for FPC and the Sydney Morning Herald. During my time in Sydney I competed in a Dragon Boat race, choreographed a dragshow, used the Share Accomodation advertisements as a way to meet men and was told by Noiseworks frontrunner Jon Stevens that I was a bitch! Then came the decision to move back to country for 3 months to help out my Father with newspaper business while he was having treatment. Convinced I was a city girl I was caught by surprise when I fell in love with a farmer (and no, he didn't want a wife... still doesn't it seems!) convinced him that we needed to see the world, popped off to Vietnam to teach english in Saigon - before realising that the "food" in Nam didn't agree with me... turned out to be Monte - my son who is now with the Cowboy and I back in country NSW! I am in a wonderful stage of my life where I am focusing on the things that really make me tick. Including writing these chronicles.

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Blogging is my social life. Is this bad?

Since living back in the 'country', I have oft' been heard complaining that I don't have any friends out here.
It has been a monotonous complaint on my behalf, admittedly - I haven't given it much of a go, convinced that I don't have anything in common with anyone.
Maybe so, maybe not.
Since becoming a blogger, a whole new world has opened up to me.
A world that has literally exhilarated me.
Writing my posts gives me an adrenaline rush - discovering other blogs that I love and keeping up with them is like... the hobby* I didn't know I was missing.
I have become a regular on a few blogs, and I have a few regulars on mine.
This makes me feel so happy!
I asked Cowboy if I had become the world's biggest loser for feeling so happy to have my blogging friends.
He said no and that he thought it was amazing. (see why I love him so?)
Something about Mohammed and the mountain ... he said as he clipped the grass out of the driveway. (see why I love him so?)
I am a social creature. I led the life of a Sydney D-Lister back in the day. Talking, laughing, drinking, dancing were my fortes.
Lately my social life - is contained to... blogging, emails and facebook.
I have very little in the way of "real life, can see and touch" friends.
(NB I have lots of them, but none of them live in this one-horse town)
AND I feel content with this.
I do have a couple of mates who I see every now and then for coffee - I am not a complete loner... but all in all, the net is where it is at.
My question is.... is this unhealthy?

* I do not like the word hobby - couldn't think of a better one. Put this here to remind me to think of a better one, if the word hobby is still there, I did not think of a better one, but you know what I mean.


  1. Nope it's not bad I don't think. But I think you have to balance it out with some real life contact because nothing takes the place of that. Even Ree Drummond invites lots of friends family and fans to stay with her. They do interesting things like cook, chat etc and then she writes about it- more fodder for a good blog post. On that topic I have put a link to your post on my blogroll-it's part of my cunning plan to attract more traffic to my site as well as to introduce Australia's answer to the Pioneer Woman.

  2. I can't tell you if it's unhealthy or not because I'm in the exact same boat as you, except I'm in a whole new country where I don't know anyone and my one horse town is more like a one hoof town compared with the bustling town that is hay, but I can tell you that I think the friends we make online and the interactions we have with our blog friends are just as valuable as those we have with any real people we know.

    In fact I just had a 'net friend' visit with her family. It was the first time we'd ever met in real life after a couple of years knowing each other around the interwebs and the friendship we formed after they stayed with us for 3 days is just as strong, if not stronger than the friendships I've had for years.

    PS: Does hay still have the fish and chip shop with the cocktail fish and the seafood sticks.. I have spent YEARS searching for seafood sticks as the ones from that Fish and Chip shop.. in the end I just gave up trying!

  3. Heather, thank-you! I do agree, some real life people would be nice. You have inspired me to get out of my comfort zone invite people over and use it as fodder to write about (AND i might just enjoy it!)

    Nikki - YES we have that fish-shop. Would you like me to post you a seafood stick to your one hoof town? haha

  4. LOL.. I'm not sure how you would go getting that through customs! Besides I'm a boring old vegetarian these days so unless the seafood is made of tofu I'm afraid it's off limits.. think of me next time you have one though! :)

  5. Hi Sharni,
    I agree with Heather, there should be a balance. I LOVE blogging too and probably spend more time doing that then other things. That said, I feel good when I take a long walk through the forest with my husband and FEEL the world. We live in Seattle in the city. Seattle is interesting because it feels like you are living in the woods (at least our neighborhood does). We have towering pines and evergreen trees, yet the whole world...restaurants from every country, are two streets away. If I lived in the country, I'd have to blog. But I'd also try and find some social things to do. Is there a way you could start a writing group at your house in your one-horse town. I have a writing group that comes every two weeks to my house. I love it! We are doing a collage next week. Anyway, Sharni...I'm glad you blog and I found you (or you found me??) If I'm ever in Australia, I'll visit you in your one-horse town! If you are ever in Seattle, WA, USA..please visit me!!!! Keep Shining, Kathy


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