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I am a full-time mama with a passion for writing and talking to fascinating people. I live in a one horse town with a Cowboy and my son. Thank Lord for cyberspace! I lived a colourful life in Sydney for a number of years. Working in advertising and journalism for FPC and the Sydney Morning Herald. During my time in Sydney I competed in a Dragon Boat race, choreographed a dragshow, used the Share Accomodation advertisements as a way to meet men and was told by Noiseworks frontrunner Jon Stevens that I was a bitch! Then came the decision to move back to country for 3 months to help out my Father with newspaper business while he was having treatment. Convinced I was a city girl I was caught by surprise when I fell in love with a farmer (and no, he didn't want a wife... still doesn't it seems!) convinced him that we needed to see the world, popped off to Vietnam to teach english in Saigon - before realising that the "food" in Nam didn't agree with me... turned out to be Monte - my son who is now with the Cowboy and I back in country NSW! I am in a wonderful stage of my life where I am focusing on the things that really make me tick. Including writing these chronicles.
Showing posts with label columnist. Show all posts
Showing posts with label columnist. Show all posts

Friday, October 16, 2009

Pamela Tsigdinos - Inspiring others through her story


Through joining shewrites I have had the opportunity to liaise with lots of writers at different stages of their 'careers.'
Many of these inspirational in their own right.
One such writer I had the fortune of chatting with is Author, Columnist ,Blogger and Californian Gal Pamela Tsigdinos
Pamela has recently had her personal story, 'Silent Sorority' published.
She has inspired me by showing how writing from a place of pain and honesty we can connect and help others.
I asked Pamela questions about being a published author and columnist - but discovered more about her story than just the nuts and bolts of being 'published."
Thanks so much Pamela.








You are a published author and columnist! Tell me, what was the secret for 'sealing the deal' in both positions?

Dedication. Unwavering commitment to your projects. Discipline. A willingness to knock on as many doors as it takes to get where you want to go. Oh, yes, and moxie coupled with the ability to write persuasively enough to get others interested in your ideas.

Tell me about your book and who you are a columnist for?

My book, Silent Sorority, was five years in the making and followed nearly 10 years of trying lead a conventional life while in the throes of trying to solve a medical mystery. Each day I'd get up and go to work, doing my best to pretend everything was normal. What my extended family and most friends didn't realize was that I had become a science experiment. You can find out more by reading the book!
I don't want to give away the punch line. As for my column, well, here's a clue. It's called Barren Not Beaten and it's one of five featured on a site called Fertility Authority.

What do you believe are key ingredients for being a successful columnist?

The most important element for being a successful columnist (or blogger for that matter) is to have a distinct point of view.
Let your personality come through in your writing.
People aren't interested in milk toast topics or imitation.
Be creative and find your voice.

How did you go about getting your book published?
Was it difficult?

I'm not going to mince words here. It was brutal. A strong ego and a drive to succeed are essential. That's because rejection and long periods of waiting and wondering if anyone is ever going to embrace your work comes with the territory.

How do you FEEL now that your story is out there?

It's surreal, really. Until recently I was a very private person. At the same time I now feel a bond, a connection to readers and a sense of legacy.
I like to think that some time a hundred years or more from now someone will stumble across my book and gain insight into a difficult experience told from a candid, humorous and poignant perspective -- much like we read and contemplate diaries of those who came before us. I don't have to wait a hundred years though. I also have the immense satisfaction that comes from readers thanking me for sharing my frank story and telling me that I've touched their lives. One recent reader email in particular stands out.
She wrote: "I just wanted to let you know how much your book has helped and is still helping. I am in a good place at the moment and thought you should know (since reading your book). My mom has read the book as well and it has opened up a line of communication that we did not have before. I really can not thank you enough!"

Any advice you would give to somebody with ambition to achieve what you have?

For anyone starting out today I would strongly encourage them to do exactly what you're doing, Sharni.
Get to know other writers and editors.
Figure out how to build a following by leveraging the social media tools that allow your writing to get from your computer to readers.
There are writing platforms out there that will allow you to test your ideas and experiment with what works -- they range from Open Salon to BlogHer.
The best advice though, while maddeningly cliche is still true: follow your dreams, and write what comes naturally, write what you know.


Friday, October 9, 2009

A woman who does what she loves


I'd like you to virtually meet a very inspiring lady...

Tania McCartney

I admit, she inspired me initially because she awarded me $100 Trenery (new range at Country Road) voucher for my poetry... but then I delved deeper.

This lady not only writes children's books but she is a columnist for Australian Women Online, an accomplished blogger AND has lived in exotic, amazing countries ... oh and she has children. (Yay more proof it can be done, it can be done!) She does what she loves and is darn good at it ... so today I got into her psyche and now I am waiting to see if anything rubs off...


What do you do and why do you love it?

I am a children’s author, bloggist, magazine writer, traveller, party-thrower, mango-eater and mum. I’ve been writing for over 25 years and have been both published and self-published in that time. I’ve written for several magazines including Time Out, beijingkids, City Weekend Beijing, Dolly magazine and Australian Parents. I currently write for Australian Women Online and spend every spare moment working on my children’s book series - the travel adventures of Riley.

Riley and the Sleeping Dragon: A Journey Around Beijing was published during our family’s time living in Beijing. I’m still thrilled by its success, which propelled me to start a series. The next book – Riley and the Dancing Lion: A Journey Around Hong Kong will be published in November 2009, and next year, Riley will be journeying to Sydney. I have had a blast creating these books because they combine my passion for photography, travel, history and… kids books. I never dreamt I’d write my own kids books. I have a new illustrator for book two, and am so excited about his work.

I love my work because I need it to survive – I live and breathe every drop. Having dreamt of being a self-sufficient writer since I was a tot, it feels quite surreal to have achieved this. Being able to couple writing with design, styling, photography and travel has just tipped things right over the edge into Happy Happy Joy Land and I’m truly living the dream. To be creative, self-styled and totally expressive, and call it work… well, just pinch me.

What obstacles have you had on the way to reaching this point?

The biggest obstacle anyone can face is self-doubt. I’ve struggled with this for so long, mainly at the hands of discouragement. It’s so easy to ‘give up’ if things don’t go according to plan, and I’ve done this many times, wasting many years.

It wasn’t until we moved to Beijing in 2005 that I finally found the chutzpah to charge on through the fear and refuse to let it defeat me. I turned 40 and I thought, okay – enough mucking around. Basically, every time an ‘obstacle’ appeared, I said “oh hello, obstacle” and just ploughed on through. There’s something to be said for refusing to give up. Every time I faced an obstacle and strategized ways through it, it fell away of its own weight. Every. Single. Time.

Where is the most amazing place you have lived and why?

The most amazing place I’ve lived is probably Paris. Only because it was during a watershed time for my own personal, inner workings (I don’t mean plumbing) and it’s also a pretty extraordinary place to feast the eyes (and tongue) upon. Everything there is beautiful; even the pothole covers. I’ve also lived in Beijing, London and almost every Australian state, and I can honestly say each and every place had its beauty and unique finds. London is quite extraordinary and I miss it terribly. Beijing has become part of my soul. I’m now trying to wangle a stint in Manhattan with a beach house on Martha’s Vineyard.

What are you inspired by?

I’m inspired by the everyday – small things like the weight of our pet rabbits in my hands, a tiny bronze Cambodian Buddha on my desk, a conversation with someone unexpected, the giggling of my kids, a particularly beautiful piece of patterned paper, a Vietnamese rice paper roll when it’s crunched between the teeth. Little things. They make me want to create.

Another inspiration is meeting people who are driven – not to the point of obsession but to the point of insatiable desire to do what they love – so much so, they don’t give up, they don’t let people down, they commit with every bone in their body and go out of their way to do things with dignity and excellence. These people are exceptionally rare.

I’m also big on aesthetics – photography, film, art, decorating and design – they all inspire me to do something innovative with my writing. And lastly, travel. Witnessing the dichotomy in sights and culture and beliefs and cuisine and language is enough to send anyone into a creative lather.

How do you inspire other women?

I hope I inspire women through my writing. I definitely write from the heart, in my own voice, with irreverence for how things ‘should’ be. I’m open and share my views and experience with both humour and candor, but refuse to revert to schlock or controversy.

I also like to research and share new or more interesting or more beautiful ways of doing things and seeing life. The older I get, the more impassioned I feel about seizing life and making it beautiful in the littlest of ways. Of finding appreciation and dedication and tenderness and calm.

I also hope I can inspire women by my commitment to follow my passion. I actually dislike this most common of phrases, but it really does coin things for me. Right Now has been a long-awaited time in my life, and if I can encourage anyone else to step off the Maybe platform and take the plunge – well, that would be a very fulfilling thing.

Describe your perfect day?

Early cuddles from the kids, a swim at Bondi icebergs pool or yoga on an endless lawn in the morning sun, a home-made Continental breakfast on our decking, an unexpected package in the mail, working on travel photo books with my daughter, watching my son play football, sushi lunch, Luna park and fairy floss with the kids, a late afternoon stroll through a farmer’s market anywhere in Italy, a BBQ dinner with friends, a Broadway show, writing late into the night, reading a décor magazine in bed with husband cuddles, instant sleep-when-head-hits-pillow.

Too ambitious?

If you could escape to anywhere and do anything what would it be?

Ubud. A bungalow with flowers and the sound of local prayers poking in through the windows. My camera and my laptop.

How do you juggle mamahood with pursuing your passions?

Very carefully. When I become impassioned by something, I throw myself in so deeply, I drown. Everything suffers, especially my health – so I have to watch this. My kids are very used to hearing “when I’ve finished this article, darling” but I’m really aware of minimizing the occurrence of this sentence wherever I can.

It sounds trite, but I cope by consistently attempting a tightrope balance. I’m getting better at it the older I get – but like most mums who want to work, I still struggle. I’m very aware of how fortunate I am to have such a supportive husband who goes out of his way to help and is so fantastic with the kids.

The other thing I do is regularly take reprieve from my tendency to be anal. Yes, sometimes I actually leave the floor unswept and let the ironing pile up into a Jabba-the-Hut creation in the corner. I’ve come a loooong way to be able to do this (and not hyperventilate).

How has becoming a Mother inspired you?

By giving me a sense of inner power that is totally borne of the love a mother feels for her offspring. I would do anything for my kids and feel insatiably driven to protect and nurture and uplift them. I feel compelled to be an example to them, to show them they can do anything if they dedicate themselves intently enough. I also feel impassioned to leave them with beautiful mementoes of their lives, and extraordinary memories. This passion constantly inspires me.

Greatest achievement?

Conquering fear and self-doubt. Showing my children how to do this. I think it’s an extraordinary life tool. I wouldn’t say I’ve completely mastered it, but I’m certainly slaying dragons.

Advice for others wanting to do what they love?

Understand that it’s a process that needs a modicum of planning and research, and a hell of a lot of drive. The moment you bat an eyelid at an obstacle, your setback will cost you time and energy. Don’t bat that eyelid. Obstacles will still challenge you, but stare them down and don’t stray. Be singular. And cliché of all clichés – just don’t give up. Remember that ‘success’ is dependent on your ability to get up and keep going after you fall.

Now, the sub-clause to the above statement is to be realistic and self-effacing. Don’t throw yourself in blindly and never ‘start big’. Start small and reinvest. Be willing to listen to criticism and advice from others. Look for feedback. Take the hint if it’s bad. It doesn’t mean you can’t follow the path of your passion, but be open to variations on a theme. Educate yourself. Research. Plan. Be proactive. For example, don’t call yourself a writer if you don’t write. Writers write.

Also, consistently search for every avenue you can to fuel your dream – even if it means you have to do it for nothing for a while. And it goes without saying that if you get a ‘no’, just ask the next person. Or do it yourself and tell yourself ‘yes’.

For more on Tania’s books, including stockists, visit www.taniamccartney.com. For inspiration on making parenthood and childhood memorable and beautiful, visit her blog at http://taniamccartney.blogspot.com. For those interested in kids books and literature, visit Tania’s Kids Book Review at http://kids-book-review.blogspot.com/.


If there is an inspirational lady you think I should talk to (yourself included) don't be a stranger now...

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Ten things I must do


Since I started blogging, about 2 months ago, I have been a little concerned that my Chronicles are random and niche-less.
Concerned only because I have ambition for my blog to reach an audience that is interested in what I have to say and not just stumble upon my blog and feel like they have walked in on someone else's conversation and not stay and listen... if you know what I mean?
According to an article I read to have a popular blog it is very advisable you become an 'expert' in something, have a niche.
- Give the readers something to think about.
Now, though others have done it beautifully honing in on a niche, like Down to Earth has with her gardening and Sassy Bella has with her fashion - I have been really racking my brain to find an area where I just know my stuff ........ hmmmmm
Due to the fact I can teach readers bugger all about scrap booking, tapestry, organic gardening, sequins, needlework or home science, let alone anything to do with Mothering I have come up with the idea of inviting you on a journey as I tackle some goals. and join me as I try to become an expert in ...... ten things.
My vision is to swap information with people who have similar goals, laugh about potholes we hit along the way, lessons learnt, achievements ... but ultimately to conquer this list and then make some more.
So without further ado. I am happy to introduce you to...........

The Ten Things I must Do (really soon)
Drum roll......................... ( I reserve the right to amend these over the next week as I gather my thoughts on this concept)

1) Become famous blogger / columnist and author
So to do this, I will be searching for those who have become what I wish to become, I will interview them, study them and feature them in my journey. Have you cracked it here? If so please email me as I would love to talk to you and feature you on my blog.
I am interested in people like Ms Freedman and Ms Woolf and the rest of you who have gone from blog to book with columns thrown in here and there. I need your wisdom so I can replicate it :-)

2) Have a STYLISH wardrobe with clothes that perfectly flatter my age and stage
Since becoming a Mama, the fashionista that was once me, seems to have left the building. Join me as I try to find her before it is too late. My goal here is to save money to go on the ultimate shopping spree.
This, will take time. So while the money slowly accumulates I am going to study FASHION. Colours, styles, cuts - I will research the fashion industry no end so by the time my pennies have have reached my target shop assistants will be put out jobs because when they say "Can I help you?" my reply will be "No. I know EXACTLY what I want"
I will find out everything from what colours suit, what cuts - investment pieces the works. I will learn from the experts. Sassy Bella???
Maybe I'll see what Trin & Suz have to say...
We can swap tips, photos, inspirations on all things for a fashionista in hibernation.
3) Have a smokin' hot and energised bod!
( - to date my insatiable relationship with sugar has sabotaged my attempts to reach my goal weight and to be a healthy eating role model for my boy.
I recently stopped my exercise classes due to feeling exhausted all the time, but as a result of stopping them .... feel ... exhausted.
SO Join me on this journey of beating the battle with sugary evils , developing healthy eating and exercise habits and having the bod to prove it.
OK granted, once upon a time this goal would be purely in the name of vanity. But, seriously, I want to ingrain these habits in myself in order to set a good example to my son. That is the primary reason. If I look smokin' hot in my new clobber (see number 2. well that would just be an excellent plus)
hello! I am starting personal training alongside my Cowboy on Tuesday. We have hired a trainer and all!!!!!!!! Promise to include pics... SCARED
4) Attend a night at the opera
What the?
Before Baby you'd be likely to catch me chasing Evan Dando around Sydney or attending rockin' musical festivals with a ciggie in one hand and a ciggie in the other....
But since having baby and trying to play him classical music and opera (hey it's meant to stimulate their brains) I have got right into it... bagged the fags and replaced it with listening to Old Hags...
Now I would LOVE to take my Cowboy to a fancy night at the Opera , all dressed up, booked into a swanky hotel and having those little binocular thingies too...
This is a must on my to-do list and help me find the perfect Opera to attend and let me tell you about it when we do....
5) Go to New York
Call me sad, but those Sex and the City gals did glamorise it for me. (Sad, that is as pathetic as the Brits coming to Australia because of Neighbours or Home and Away I know) Sure 9/11 did the opposite - but still am intrigued to visit the city so good they named it twice - and for once that won't be Wagga Wagga.
I am very interested in attending the Blogher conference next year in August - a pipe dream? or a possible reality?
Well its listed here, so it HAS To happen now!! Cyberspace will hold me accountable!
Cowboy can take the Prince for a tour downtown while I have a cosmopolitan with my blogging counterparts from around the world......
6) Live in an inspiring town/city- need to find where this is
At the moment I live in a lovely town, albeit the damn one I grew up in and spent most of my adult life escaping!!! It is nice because I have family here - it is nice and safe to raise the boy in- but for me??? Not inspiring enough. I don't mean to sound like I think I'm above it -I'm not, it is just I'm not a sporty person and well, its pretty much a good town to live in if you are...
So here I am going to research the best damn place for me and my fam to live. It must be - near a big centre not necessarily in one (compromise because Cowboy won't do big city) , it has to be close to Ocean, it has to have lovely cafes, restaurants, culture - it has to be child friendly, community minded - have cool people in it??! And I also need to check what Cowboy wants to, which would probably be - football team :-)
7) Get in touch with spiritual side
I have an inner voice, that when I make the effort to listen to (a rarity) knows its stuff. So here I am making it a goal to find my spiritual side and have a regular practice. I will try all sorts of methods to get in touch with it and see what works. I am very inspired by a Katherine Jenkins - her blog about the lessons she has learnt from the Monk she married. Here I will learn my own lessons - and draw inspiration from people like her. I would like to get into meditation in a big way, but ......... must learn more....
8) Renovate our house and make it into dream home
Inspiration needed here, we have the $ to do it (got a small loan) so watch this space for updates!
9) Become a conscious Parent
Although I have come into the world of being a Mama quite naively (doesn't everyone?) - I want to learn as much as I can about children - their needs etc.. in order to consciously raise my boy. Not to accidentally traumatise him through setting bad examples etc... but to be aware of how I am parenting and aware of what I want to teach him. I can never learn enough about this. I really want to be the best example I can be for my boy. That is the greatest motivation I have in for the first time in my life dedicating myself to these goals. I want him to be able to set goals and achieve them too.
10) To nurture my relationship with the Cowboy
A fine Aunt once gave me advice "The grass is greener where you water it" I will always cherish this - and here - I will journal ways in which I water the grass - and I hope you will also share...

So how am I going to do this ????
Well first things first...
I am on the hunt for people who have achieved what I seek to.... when I find them I hope to bring what i learn to my post and then set myself tasks on my way to achieving the TEN THINGS I MUST DO -

What do you think?
How can I make myself accountable for achieving these things?
Any suggestions welcome
Are you on a similar journey - care to join me ?